New years eve used to be a big thing for me. I have pretty much always believed that holidays had very little meaning to me…except new years eve. Since I began working in my late teens and early 20s, I made it a priority that I always had new years eve off, because I thoroughly enjoyed the concept of celebrating a new year, for no reason if not because it was the one “holiday” that truly brings everybody together. There are massive debates as to whether people say “Merry Christmas” to others, or “Happy Holidays.” But there will, in all likelihood, not be a debate on new years. The new year is universal to everybody, and that is why I made it a priority to celebrate it.
Another thing that a new year brings are massive expressions of hope and (sometimes) planning. Enter the “new years resolution,” which is an open and outward expression of hope. How many people do you know will say “well, this year will be different. I want to do ______, stop doing ______, and do more of _______ this year. And maybe I will take up _____. I really hope this year works out for me!” I myself have said this to others and let’s face it, I would be lying if I said I did not say this at all to this day.
Its a good thing to have yearly plans, or to embark on new journeys in a coming year. For example, I am currently writing a book, which I plan to self publish, using these tutorials on July 5th of 2018 (I’ll be doing both “methods,” since this will be my first book ever). I did not plan to do this today, on new years eve, but when I moved six months ago. Additionally, I have developed the fundamentals of bowling to a point where I can work with people to develop these fundamentals. So whenever I can, I will become a certified bowling coach. This also is not a decision I made on new years eve, it was a decision I made in November when one of my bowling buddies wanted me to coach her.
So I decided to take on these ventures irrespective of whether there is a new year on the way. I got into freelancing some random day in February last year without even thinking about it. This blog? I made it in March. I took $300 and some change, spent it on hosting, and all of a sudden I owned a blog. The best decisions come at a whim, without an “excuse.” And that’s why the new years resolution is: An excuse. The new years resolution is nothing more than a rationalization to give up on something you know you have needed to do for years, decades even. New years resolutions are usually a set of extremely lofty goals that people make that they know they will not follow through on. There is a clear reason why over 90% of new years resolutions get broken, often within a week: It is because the goals are either too vague, involve too much sacrifice, or the (imaginary) pressure created by the term “new years resolution” is too much.
Another thing is that not many understand that the passing of a new year is not necessary for a resolution. You can resolve to do something new tomorrow. In fact, you can resolve to do something new, create a new goal, or take on a new activity a few hours from now. If you are curious enough, you can even do this new thing at this very moment. You can literally click off this blog and take on a new venture right now. What is truly stopping you? This is my beef with new years resolutions, and why I have matured enough to know that new years eve is not a big priority of things to celebrate. New years resolutions are nothing more than a giant rationalization to put things off until “next year.”
So the next time you say “that’s gonna be my new years resolution,” Say “I’m just gonna do this right now.” That’s how the best decisions are made, they are made abruptly and through innocent curiosity.
All of that being said, Happy New Year!